Sunday, July 15, 2012

agree to disagree.


bonjour,


we humans, we come from different backgrounds...

we have different opinions about certain things and on how we carry ourselves...

we love to critic others and yet we don't know how to advice or argue with people nicely...

we are not even their families, friends or special ones and don't even know them from the start, but still we love to make a big fuss about things...




if we wanna argue or advice people (to strangers) we should :-

- tell the good side of the opinions to encounter the bad side...

- say the opinions with wise words and full of info...

- don't yell or use harsh words...

- don't go out of track...

- not expect people to change even though we are advising for a good course...

- know limits...

- not forcing them to accept our  opinions, instead respect theirs...

- don't condemn much because we are not perfect either and we don't know the reason behind their    behaviours

people always wanna win including me...

and we become defensive, we have to in order to face this mean worlds...

if it's about jobs, professionally we are easier to accept advises...

but when it come to personal things it's hard to go against our principles...

think and think before we react...



xoxo








Tuesday, July 10, 2012

education and money.



bonjour,


sebenarnya kan agak annoying dengar orang cakap "takde duit" bila bab nak beli buku...

seriously, muka orang berduit tapi berkira bila bab education...

tak tau la kalo keluarga ada financial problem  or anything, not that i've heard of...

tapi tak perlu la berkira sangat kalo bab cari ilmu...

kadang2 ni lah silapnye orang melayu...

mereka kurang menabung untuk education...

kesian anak kena pikir pasal duit bila nak belajar...

kes ni same la jugak dengan saya...

yes, i admit, my late mom never allocated money for a quality education...

and dulu dapat biasiswa memang my late mom was a happy lady...

my mom dah cakap awal2, "mak takde duit nak tanggung adik kalo nak wat medic'

i was sad when she told that...rasa macam takde future langsung, agak down...

tapi Alhamdulillah bab nak beli buku, pegi tuisyen mak sanggup buat ape saje time sekolah dulu...

cuma melayu ni pandai bergantung kepada kerajaan...

lepas belajar wajib kerja kerajaan...

kena ubah mentaliti, kena pandai menabung...

menabung tak bermakna kedekut berbelanja cuma belanja dengan baik...

you can get anything you want if you set a priority and manage money well...


xoxo